The first thing I would like to establish is, there is a difference between mistakes and misfurtunes. We cannot blame or attribute a mistake to anybody but ourselves. It is easy at the end of the day to catagorize our mistakes as misfurtunes rather than looking in the mirror and admitting we made a poor choice. Our non existent husband didn’t spend too much money shopping, or pay the bills late. We did. We can’t just wait for somebody to come along and see to what needs attention. We cannot point fingers at a spouse, family member or friend for buying into a sales pitch for a $40,000 lemon of a car. We, and we alone made the choice. And we have to “wear it” so to speak. So I want to make it clear that when living on your own, you are going to have to be strong enough to admit your mistakes are yours alone.
That being said, I want to differentiate between mistakes and misfortunes. The fact is, single, married, widowed or divorced; we all suffer misfurtunes. Illness. Lost love. Family desth. Lay offs. The list is long. What matters is what we do with it. Ability to avoid misfortune can sometimes be as mysterious as controlling the weather. It’s not always possible to control either. What makes misfortune different for the single is that if we let it stop us in our tracks, we have no significant other to take the reins while we recover. So you just plain have to dig in and keep moving.
In summary, accpet responsibility for your mistakes and don’t be immobilized by misfortunes.
Julia
